Ed, I have raced against both of you guys for years and I'll say I trust both teams when I am racing near you. I always look forward to running against either one of you because I know the cars will be well piloted. I watched both videos many times this morning because apparently I am too lazy to get out and do anything else. So here is my opinion for whatever that is worth.
If you watch your hands starting at about 1:09 in your video you see you make a slight turn to the right and hold it and then you are coming neutral at about the point of contact. I assume the slight steer to right is due to the track jog to right that is coming up. If you watch the black marks on the track you are crossing left to right slightly. When you watch Tyler's video starting at about 4:21:08, his driver is neutral steering and makes no movement either left or right thru the incident. But as we know there is a slight jog to the right going into turn 3 so at that part of the track he was moving slightly right to left. It seems like you were crossing slightly left to right based on steering and then coming out of it, and he had the car going straight but that crosses the track right to left slightly. Not sure what can be drawn from that, other than you both were moving laterally in opposite directions and probably didn't realize it coming into that hard braking turn.
Not to be a rules lawyer, but here is what the bccr says about passing:
184.108.40.206. It is the responsibility of the overtaking car to prepare for, plan and execute a FULL and COMPLETE safe pass. The definition of a full and complete pass is when the overtaking car has extended a lead of approximately one car length ahead of the vehicle being passed.
Stuff happens at speed, and as somebody else said all of this incident happened in less than 3 seconds and after one of the most hair raising turns in motorsports if you take it like it needs to be taken. Restarts always puts a lot of cars in one spot trying to make a turn. Luckily nobody had terrible damage and both cars live to race again.
Edit: One thing I don't like about the rule listed above, how do you plan and execute a full and complete safe pass if you are going down the straight and a car suddenly jogs over into you? How do you plan for that because it can happen anytime you are passing a car? You just hope the other car either knows you are there or at least they are predictable in holding their line no matter where on track.